Infertility Struggles? We Want To Help!

I was reading some of the blogs of couples that have been or are going through infertility and my heart goes out to all of you. My prayers are also with you.

My husband and I went through ten years of infertility and we know exactly how you feel. The one thing that I cannot understand is people who are leaving negative comments on YOUR blogs. I don't think that those people know what all of us are going through and went through! The emotions, the depression, the longing for a baby. I am sure that they all mean well when you hear everyone around say, "just relax and it will happen" or "you can always look at other options." The fact of the matter is that it still hurts. I found that it is just better if someone would say, "I am sorry" and listen to what and how the infertility person is feeling and going through.

Those of you who have viewed my full story will know that after ten years of infertility we were blessed with triplets. I still cry when I hear someone tell about their infertility story. I am one person that will not tell you," don't worry it will happen" or anything like that. Because I walked in your shoes and I have been there.

Those of you who want to leave a negative comment just remember that all things in life do not come easy for others!!!

I apologize if this comes accross harsh to some people, but it's my blog and this is how I feel.

Remembering When..

My husband had suggested I go to the beauty salon and have my hair done for Mother's Day. I think he suggested this to get me out of the house so that he can work with the kids making crafts for me for Mother's Day. I was happy he did, because I needed a new hair color change. It has been a long time since I have had this done.

While I was driving there, I was thinking of when I was going through my IVF cycles. I was on my very last IVF try. I say last IVF try because my doctor told me that I didn't have to many more follicles to produce after this cycle. I was already on the strongest meds I could be on to produce.

A couple of weeks after I had the transfer of my embryos I went to have my hair done. My hairdresser (Teresa) who I have used for several years started working on my hair and asked what I was using different on it.

I advised her the same old stuff as always. She asked how my IVF was coming along. I explained that I just had a transfer done. She began to smile at me and tell me, "I know something that you don't know". I of course had no idea what she was talking about, but wanted to know what she could possibly know that I didn't.

Teresa asked me if I had my pregnancy test done yet. I told her I was due for it in a couple of days. She then told me that she bet a Million dollars that I was pregnant. She said she could tell by how my hair looked and felt... She said that the baby was taking a lot of nutrients from my hair.

Well of course hearing this I couldn't wait for the test. The day finally came and I had my pregnancy test and sure enough I was pregnant! Shortly after that I had our ultrasound done and was told that we were expecting TRIPLETS. I called Teresa and told her I was going to have triplets and she said this would explain the reason that my hair was so (let's say fried).

Whenever Teresa would comment on my hair I would ask if she knew something I didn't!

When Is Enough?

While my husband Jack and I were going through our infertility journey I often wondered what he was thinking. We of course talked, but I don’t think he really let me know how he felt about a lot of things in the beginning.

In the beginning we had a lot of fun trying to get pregnant. We laughed, prayed and cried together. We knew after a year that something was wrong. Jack of course said that it could be him, bless his soul, but I knew it was me.

It was getting really frustrating while we went through massage therapy, artificial insemination, surgery without getting pregnant. We finally went through IVF. Jack and I had been a pretty happy couple and now we found ourselves arguing a lot more than usual. I often wondered if he just wanted to stop it all and give up.

It wasn’t until we both finally broke down and had a heart to heart talk about what we really wanted in life and what it was going to take especially from BOTH of us to get there. We found out that we both wanted that one time when it might just work. Anytime someone goes through difficult times it is hard to express to one another how you really feel. I found out that Jack really wanted to go through whatever it took to get us a baby, he just was frustrated with having to go through so much to get there. So many disappointments, and what seemed like false hope. He just ached as much for a baby as I did. We found that going through the final stages of IVF brought us together again. We were bound and determined to not give up on having a baby and not give up on each other.

After ten long years of infertility, a miscarriage, and my very last attempt at IVF (do to not having enough follicles to produce), I am happy to say that we we blessed with triplets. This was the joy of our lives, and I hope that this inspires you not to give up, stick together, and never give up your faith.

Only you can decide when enough is enough, for us we were able to overcome our obstacles and manage to come together as a couple and determine when and what we would do if the last IVF cycle didn’t work.

I would like to start this blog out by letting you know that I have been in your shoes and I know how you feel and what you are going through.

My husband and I went through ten long heartbreaking years of infertility. In this blog I will be sharing with you my journey through infertility, what I went through, how I dealt with the pain and what my outcome has been.

My husband and I created this blog together to help others going through difficult times. We hope that our blog inspires those going through infertility and keeps your faith alive.