When Is Enough?

While my husband Jack and I were going through our infertility journey I often wondered what he was thinking. We of course talked, but I don’t think he really let me know how he felt about a lot of things in the beginning.

In the beginning we had a lot of fun trying to get pregnant. We laughed, prayed and cried together. We knew after a year that something was wrong. Jack of course said that it could be him, bless his soul, but I knew it was me.

It was getting really frustrating while we went through massage therapy, artificial insemination, surgery without getting pregnant. We finally went through IVF. Jack and I had been a pretty happy couple and now we found ourselves arguing a lot more than usual. I often wondered if he just wanted to stop it all and give up.

It wasn’t until we both finally broke down and had a heart to heart talk about what we really wanted in life and what it was going to take especially from BOTH of us to get there. We found out that we both wanted that one time when it might just work. Anytime someone goes through difficult times it is hard to express to one another how you really feel. I found out that Jack really wanted to go through whatever it took to get us a baby, he just was frustrated with having to go through so much to get there. So many disappointments, and what seemed like false hope. He just ached as much for a baby as I did. We found that going through the final stages of IVF brought us together again. We were bound and determined to not give up on having a baby and not give up on each other.

After ten long years of infertility, a miscarriage, and my very last attempt at IVF (do to not having enough follicles to produce), I am happy to say that we we blessed with triplets. This was the joy of our lives, and I hope that this inspires you not to give up, stick together, and never give up your faith.

Only you can decide when enough is enough, for us we were able to overcome our obstacles and manage to come together as a couple and determine when and what we would do if the last IVF cycle didn’t work.